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After our baby date last night I sent of a quick, polite email telling Regan and Sarah that we enjoyed meeting them. They haven't written back. I know Regan works on computers all day so she must have read it. I think they are feeling awkward.

I just wanted to meet and see how we got along. I found it a little bit like a job interview that I hadn't prepared for. I was taken aback by a couple of questions and I think that may have annoyed them.

Even though we're fags and they are dykes, the evening was filled with the tension of a straight-date where everyone is wondering if they will get laid or not. I expected that and that's why I wanted to get to know them, their communication styles etc, before we talked about anything really hard core. But no, they were a bit impatient. I think one of their biological clocks was ticking loudly so I shouldn't be surprised.

In the end, we confirmed that they want more kids than I feel comfortable supporting. They also want someone close to Toronto because they want the dad to be involved fifty percent of the time. Call me selfish but I've been expecting that a lesbian couple would want the fathers to have less involvement. I don't mean no involvement. I just mean a weekend kind of dad who the kids can stay with for extended periods when the mom(s) need a vacation. I have no problem with paying for half of everything and saving for their education. I just feel the kids should have a primary home where they spend most of the time and that's pretty hard to accomplish if each parent wants them half the time. I've kind of warmed up to the idea of being a dad and having some freedom too. So I find the idea of sharing 50/50 between 2 households a bit daunting and possibly hard on the kids. Especially if those households are in different cities. And I didn't even bring the subject up of buying real estate together so we could live in close proximity.

I haven't written them off. Like I said, I kind of liked them. But they have to decide if they can handle having their 4 kids with 2 or more dads (I'd be ok with that as long as mine were smarter and better looking [kiddding]). It looks like it's a choice they will have to make because they say all the men they meet want just one or 2 kids at the most. That could present more issues if both dads want different levels of involvement. And how would we handle living arrangements? It would be a bloody commune for christ sake.

Straight people have it so easy. Maybe I just should have pretended I was straight and filed for divorce afther the kids were born.