Sick day

I usually try to go to work when I'm not feeling well. But today I couldn't think of a good reason to do it.

I can't think of much to write today. Every day seems just like the one before and there only so many ways to say the same thing.

My mind has wandered to the topic of lovers and what good idea it can be to have them. Lovers, or fuck buddies if you prefer, don't interfere with your life at all. They're there to indulge in simple pleasures with you and they aren't around long enough for you to notice their flaws.

Unlike boyfriends, partners, etc, lovers don't have anything to fight about. They can make you feel attractive, desirable and validated instead of feeling like you can never do enough to escape criticism. You can be with your fuck buddy because you want to be and not because he shares your address.

Some might argue that having a lover is selfish but I think the opposite. Because having a lover can be more than no-strings sex, it can be an opportunity to admire someone else without forcing your expectations on them.

If your lover has to leave, say for a fabulous career in another city, you can accept it and remain on good terms. I'd rather know someone was with me because he wanted to be and not because he felt he had to be.